Q) If I were to ask your children the following two questions, what would be their response?
- Do your dad and mom tell you that they love you?
- How do they show you their love?
You yourself may want to ask these two questions - today!
Christ valued and blessed children:
"Then little children were brought to Jesus for Him to place His hands on them and pray for them." (Matt. 19:13)
"Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these...And He took the children in His arms and put His hands on them and blessed them." (Mark 10:14-16)
A. Show love that your child understands.
To be their best, children need to feel loved. But if you and your child speak different love languages, your affection might get lost in translation, affecting your child's attitude, behavior and development.
"The Five Love Languages of Children," by Dr. Gary Chapman
- Quality Time (spending brief and focused times together)
- Word of Affirmations (encouraging words)
- Gifts (giving thoughtful gifts)
- Acts of Service (helpful actions to meet other's needs)
- Physical Touch (physical closeness)
B. Verbally bless your child at mile-markers.
Giving a verbal blessing is so important that God the Father gave His Son Jesus 3 verbal blessings during key stages (mile-markers) in His life mission:
- Christ's Baptism- "And a voice came from heaven: You are my Son, whom I love; with You I am well pleased." (Mark 1:11)
- Christ's Transfiguration- "A voice from the cloud said, 'This is my Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased. Listen to Him!" (Matt. 17:5)
- Greeks seek Christ during Palm Sunday- "It was for this very reason I came to this hour. Father, glorify Your name! Then a voice came from heaven, 'I have glorified it and will glorify it again." (John 12:27-28)
Old Testament patriarchs laid hands on their children and gave them a unique blessing from God. (Jacob- Gen. 49)
C. How to Give a Blessing to Your Child
(Note: Give a blessing not a comparison)
- Tell them that you love them.
- Tell them what they are good at - why they are special.
- Give a loving touch with your hands.
- Every now and then, take them aside and state what you see as God's gifting/future for them.
- (Optional) Give them a meaningful gift to commemorate the blessing.
Action Point: Give a blessing to each of your children this week:
- Scott Hoyle gives a blessing to Josh Hoyle, his son
- Josh Hoyle gives a blessing to Nathan Hoyle, his son, and Cheyenne Hoyle, his daughter.